Help other parents manage sibling relationships

You might want to share:

• How your child reacted to a new sibling
• What helped reduce conflict
• Challenges you faced
• Tips that worked for your family

Why Sharing Matters

Your experience can:

• Reassure another parent
• Provide practical ideas
• Help others feel less alone
• Build a supportive parenting community

A Safe and Respectful Space

• You can share anonymously
• Your story will be treated with care and respect
• There is no pressure to share

👉 Share your experience and support another parent

1. Prepare Older Children (If Possible)

• Talk about the new baby in simple terms
• Involve them where you can

👉 Helps reduce uncertainty and anxiety

2. Offer Reassurance

• Remind children they are loved
• Use simple, positive attention

👉 Even a few minutes of focused time can make a difference

3. Avoid Comparisons

• Try not to compare siblings
• Focus on each child individually

👉 Every child develops and behaves differently

4. Praise Positive Behaviour

• Notice when siblings play nicely
• Acknowledge kindness and cooperation

👉 This encourages more of the same behaviour

5. Stay Calm During Conflict

• Stay neutral where possible
• Avoid blaming one child

👉 Focus on helping both children understand and resolve the issue

6. Create Small One‑to‑One Moments

• Spend time with each child separately
• Even short moments can help

👉 Builds confidence and reduces jealousy

🧠 Helping Children Learn to Share & Communicate

Young children are still learning emotional skills.

You can help by:

• Naming feelings (“I can see you're upset”)
• Modelling calm behaviour
• Teaching simple sharing and turn‑taking

👉 These skills develop over time — not instantly

🤱 After a New Baby Arrives

Older children may:

• Want more attention
• Copy baby behaviours
• Feel unsure or left out

👉 Helpful strategies:

• Include them in safe, simple baby care
• Talk positively about their role (“You’re such a great helper”)
• Give them attention when they are calm — not only when acting out

When a new baby arrives or children grow up together, it’s very common for tensions to develop between siblings.

This can look like:

• Arguments or fighting
• Jealousy or attention‑seeking
• Regression in behaviour (e.g. wanting to be “like the baby”)
• Emotional outbursts

👉 Sibling rivalry is a normal part of growing up — not a sign that something is wrong

At Basch Helps, we understand that managing relationships between children can feel overwhelming — especially alongside everything else parents are balancing.

💛 Why Sibling Rivalry Happens

Siblings may compete because:

• They want attention and reassurance
• They are adjusting to change (e.g. a new baby)
• They don’t yet have the skills to manage emotions
• They feel unsure about their place in the family

👉 Often, behaviour is a way of saying:
“I need attention, reassurance, or help”

🧠 What It Can Look Like

Sibling rivalry can show up as:

• Fighting over toys or space
• Saying “it’s not fair”
• Acting out when attention is on another child
• Becoming more clingy or emotional

👉 This can increase during:

• Pregnancy or after a new baby arrives
• Times of stress or change
• Sleep disruption or routine changes

💛 If Things Feel Difficult

Sibling arguments can feel:

• Exhausting
• Repetitive
• Emotionally draining

👉 It’s important to remember:

This stage is a normal part of development — even when it feels hard

❤️ What Really Helps Long‑Term

• Consistency over perfection
• Calm responses (as much as possible)
• Encouraging connection — not competition
• Allowing children to learn through experience

👉 Relationships between siblings often improve over time

💛 A Gentle Reminder for Parents

You may:

• Feel overwhelmed
• Feel like you’re constantly managing conflict
• Worry you’re not handling it “right”

👉 You are doing your best — and that matters.

❤️ How Basch Helps Can Support You

We understand that parenting more than one child can bring real challenges.

We can:

• Offer emotional support through befriending
• Provide practical support through AngelBox
• Signpost to local family and parenting services
• Be a safe space to talk

👉 You do not have to manage this alone